December 13, 2009

"You're so fucking edible..."


I have a rant brewing in my head right now. It's one of those free-flowing rants—basically, I'm tired of people dissing monogamy whenever some celebrity has cheated. Look, I'm all for open relationships (I'm the product of one), and I'm for happy singles everywhere (just ask Georgia). But please don't put down my relationship because monogamy doesn't work for you.

Ooops. Maybe the rant has solidified.

But I have to say this... one of the killer things about being in a long-term relationship—a fifteen-years-and-counting tête-à-tête—is the fact that the desire has only grown stronger. We've been through so much together, and yet there's always something new to do, to learn, to say, to taste. Like this morning, as I strode past him in my lace-trimmed yoga pants and Wonder Woman t-shirt, and heard him whisper, "Get yourself back up in the bed, kid. I am going to eat you alive. You're so fucking edible."

Damn. Did you hear that sound? That was me sprinting up the stairs to shed my pjs.

XXX,
Alison

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7 comments:

frost said...

Made me smile! And thanks Alison, for defending monogamy--it doesn't mean we aren't evolved, that we believe in a fairy tale, that we're unrealistic about our partners, or whatever they try to pin on monogamous couples. I think the failure rate of monogamous relationships has a lot to do with laziness (not putting the time into your relationship), taking your partner for granted, and plain old selfishness. Monogamy does work--you just have to put in some work of your own!

I'm glad your relationship is still smokin'--I think, as you said, that the years can only give us more to learn, explore, and love! :)

Alison Tyler said...

It was the title of this article in Newsweek that made me flinch. And also, the assumption in the piece that people choose monogamy so they won't be lonely when they're old: "I think many more of us choose it because we think it's what we're supposed to do. You don't want to end up an old maid or a lonely bachelor, do you?"

I do appreciate that the writer points out the fact that monogamy is a choice and that there are *many* other choices out there. But while I defend all those other choices (single, married with benefits, same sex, poly, you name it, I'll vote for it), I get so tired of the digs and jabs at people who decide to only be with each other.

XXX,
AT

Jo said...

I wonder though, if it's more that whatever choice you make, that's the one you see the digs and jibes for, if you know what I mean. Perhaps everyone else feels the same. I woould have said there was still more support for traditional marriage than there is for poly relationships for example.

But then, I do live in Ireland :)

Alison Tyler said...

I'm sure you're right, Jo. You live in Ireland and I live in the midst of open-minded sex writers. There's definitely more support for tradition. But there's also a bit of glee when a cheating scandal breaks. (And they do break.) That's the part I don't get. The almost joyful way people devour the scandals. When I just think they're sad.

XXX,
AT

Angell said...

Alison - I'm of the firm belief that no one has the right to judge anyone's relationships. As my BFF says "When they started with Til Death Do Us Part, mankind was only living until 30."

After thirteen years, I'd love to hear something like that out of my husband, but it's just not happening. Not to say everything's stale, but people evolve and some of us do it faster than our spouses.

Of course, I'm all for polyamory too. More specifically, I'm all for happiness. And however you need to live your life to achieve that is none of my concern. As long as you're not murdering anyone or committing unlawful acts against mankind or mother nature, it's all good. We all should be free to follow our bliss.

The fact that you and Sam can keep up with each other is a wonderful thing and I am in awe of your luck.

Jo said...

Ah, you're not wrong there. Vultures.

I was more thinking about Paul Newman and his wife and how lauded they were for their marriage. But maybe that's different, that was everyone's mammy and daddy and the same doesn't apply to the celebs who marry their dancers etc.

I think there's kind of a wedding culture in the US. So many people get married young and pretty much anticipate divorce. People around my generation always waited much longer here because there wasn't any - made you want to be more sure! We have divorce now, but I think that fear of the old model of miserable enslaving marriages is still there.

I love how you and Sommer are poster-ladies for hot marriage :) You should do an ad cammpaign!

Alison Tyler said...

I'd rather be a poster girl for *whatever works* relationships. If that makes sense. Poly work for you? Awesome. M/F/M/F/M? You rock my world. I am just happy to stand up and say that mine works for me. Or to sprawl on the bed and say that. Cuffed wrists over my head...blindfold in place...ball gag...

What was I talking about?

XXX,
AT