July 21, 2014

Trollop with a Question #14

I promised to put up the fabulous Bound for Trouble tattoo photos by Oleander Plume today—but that was only because I forgot what day it was. So I will be posting those (seriously sultry) snapshots tomorrow. Today is Monday. I like saying that only because Monday = Trollop with a Question.

And I have a very personal question for you:

Dom. Sub. Switch. (Or, of course, none of the above. Which is totally valid.) Wait. I didn't really phrase that like a question. (Alex Trebek would be so disappointed.)

Are you a Dom, a sub, or a switch?

There. That's better. And if you are one—what type are you? Sub, masochist, with a vicious pain streak. Dom who enjoys playing with emotions and rope bondage. Dabbler into handcuffs and blindfolds, but nothing more. BDSM fanatic, but only in the pages of a magazine. Pro-domme who favors quirts and crops. Switch with the boyfriend, sub with the husband...

I'm feeling a little Five Easy Pieces here: hold the butter, the lettuce, the mayonnaise...

Or even like those fabulous frisky personal ads in the Wild Side columns I used to read as porn.

This question is totally appropriate for me today, because Those Boys is out. Yes. It's out. And Sandy is a Dom bisexual switch who occasionally seems to take residence in my head and demand to have his story told. For an interview with Sandy, please head to Jade A. Waters.


P.S. If you answered last week's query—and you'd like a prize from the bottom of the Cracker Jack box—I mean, from me—please hit me with your snail mail address to msalisontyler at yahoo dot com.


bluekaren said...

Ask my lover and he will tell you I am a sub, through and through. I am a sub, but I aspire to be a switch. I am not very "good" at dominating, so it is something I would like to work on.

168d7130-34d4-11e2-91ad-000bcdcb5194 said...

I'd be willing to switch at times, but I know I'm absolutely a Domme. I'd probably be an atypical one (the dominatrix uniform looks uncomfortable, and I'd be more "gentle but firm" than "barking orders," unless he was a TOTAL brat), but my heart skips a beat at the thought of getting some toothsome boy to submit...


Miz Angell said...

I've never actually been in a position to choose. I know it makes me hot to get told what to do, so I assume that makes me a sub. I'm not sure how comfortable I'd be ordering someone around, but I'm willing to give it a shot.

I'd need a partner willing to go there with me, and so far I haven't had one.

Annabeth Leong said...

I used to think I was a sub, but now I think it's mainly that I'm a masochist and the two are often associated.

Jeremy Wright said...

I would say switch. I love to tie or be tied. Love to whip and be whipped. Wife is absolutely submissive so I end up being dominant more often than not. Occasionally when I have been very good or she is feeling particularly frisky she will top.

CJ Lemire said...

Ooh, I am not late to the party this week! Dom, but you knew that. Rope top, with a sadistic streak a mile wide, and a weakness for good mind fuck.

Inara Serene said...

Congratulations on your release!

I'm a switch, but leaning heavily towards submissive. No, that isn't right. I don't want to submit - I want to be forced into submission. Is there a word for that?

Recently collared by a tall, dark 'n handsome dom, and couldn't be happier about it. I suppose that makes me property? I like feeling owned, and used, and safe and cared for afterwards.

Labels are hard.

dilokeith said...

A bit late, but it's a question I can answer!

The big label is "switch", but that's a lot like "bisexual" in giving you information about me.
Primarily masochistic submissive with a love of the D/s structure. Pain delivered without a D/s context of some sort has very limited appeal. D/s without pain works well. My main kink centers around punishment scenarios. I'm a full time sub at home, but we don't have a lot of structure. My partner has a masochistic (not submissive!) streak that I enjoy satisfying. With permission, I play in various ways with other people.

On the top side, I'm sadistic and love being obeyed (together or separately). I do not enjoy figuring out what to do to a sub and I don't like having a lot of responsibility (in part because I'm neither experienced nor motivated to become so). I'll respond to the erotic interests of my submissive partner, and tend to rely on them to provide material. My current boy toy will do anything I tell him, but I don't easily think of things. He has provided me with some lists so I can have fun with less "work". He's my co-blogger, although neither of us have had time to post lately.

Molly said...

Sub, through and through and with no desire to be anything else and fairly sure I would suck at it anyway. Also, I think it would make anxious and stressed.

I am not a pain sub but a marks sub... I do 'enjoy' pain sometimes but mostly the pain is associated with the marks that is leaves and it is marks that I totally get off on, from rope marks on my skin that last moments to bruises and welts that last day or if I am lucky weeks.... they all rock my world.


Darius Karada said...

I really hate the word "Dom". Its my own personal hangup. A big part of the reason for that is the people I first knew in scene.

I prefer to call myself a "Top"

Noel said...

I am a switch, predominantly as a slightly sadistic top, giving my love the joy and pain she desires. When I sub, I love the feeling of being in my loves control.

Blindfolds, restraints, ropes, toys ... they all have their time and place, as does a nice cuddle with the one I love.